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I love this but think something is missing. For many single people, being laid off is a serious threat to their survival. Unemployment benefits haven’t been raised for 20 years in my state. I only got 2 weeks severance and cannot pay rent or live on $400 a week. With the cost of living and being laid off multiple times I don’t have a large 401k or savings. And sadly I’m older. Your article mentioned someone looking for a job for 9 months. I would be on the street if it took that long. I wonder what resources they had that I don’t and many others may not. Thx!

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Yes, the article was great but this tripped me up a little bit as well. For me, it can't take longer than a few months to find work because, well, it simply can't. And I hear you on being laid off multiple times ... its becoming more and more common and people's savings are being depleted because of it ...

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100%. And the cost of living makes it worse. I've also spoken to engineers around my age (early 50s, late 40s) and they have never been laid off, own homes and could retire soon with a fat 401K. I feel terrible I have none of these things after working equally hard all these years. I regret falling into content-related roles which are less valued and paid less. Wish I was more math-minded in my youth.

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I love this so much. We try to support ourselves and those around us, having something to share like this has weight and meaning to the words we share and our feelings.

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The really pernicious thing about being laid off is the leper effect. Everyone knows that bad luck is contagious.

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I love this advice. Especially the item around slowly down to process.

In my last role I didn’t get laid off but resigned and was told I’d have 3 months to support my team through the transition of me leaving (I was at a start up and had built the team from scratch so we were close). Within 24hrs my email and access to workspaces were cut off and I was advised that I was to have zero communication with anyone from the organisation and if I did it would jeopardise my resignation entitlements.

Initially I was a mess on the floor crying and was desperate to move through the uncomfortable feelings. But I soon realised processing my emotions and slowly down the overall discussions would work in my favour.

My boss was trying to get me to agree to an agreement quickly which wasn’t in my best interest. So as hard as it was I slowed right down. Negotiated slowly and became laser sharp on what I was willing to agree to and what I was not.

Mantras and writing in my journal every morning also helped me come back to myself and remember who I was!

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